by Christina Farris
1 And he arose from thence, and cometh into the coasts of Judaea by the farther side of Jordan: and the people resort unto him again; and, as he was wont, he taught them again.
2 And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him.
3 And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you?
4 And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away.
5 And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept.
6 But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.
7 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife;
8 And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.
9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
10 And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter.
11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.
12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery. The hardest thing in a marriage is to stand by one's spouse when there is discord or mayhem/chaos. It happens in every marriage, and it a part of life. I been married 31 years so I should know a thing or too about marriage, but it makes me no expert at marriage. Only a little wiser about marriage perhaps. Two things you never do is never let someone other then God get between you and your spouse, unless it to solve an issue, such as health, or well being. Second thing do not let someone else define your marriage other then God. God said not to let any man separate what he joined together. Now with this in mind, why not let anyone define your marriage. Two things in a marriage everyone has different goals and ideas about marriage. Everyone has personal goals in life they want to achieve, either in the confines of marriage or while still married but outside the marriage circle. Career is not usually defined by marriage, it only a part of the individual goal. Career can take you away from the person you love, but it should not define your love for that person. However you can not expect your spouse to be waiting alone for years, there has to be a mutual decision within your goaled, to be separated while working or off doing other things. Unity of marriage is based on those things you do together, beyond the marriage bed. Marriage is more then love,and children. It got to be, or your marriage might not make it.
A few years ago my husband I joined a gym. I really thought my husband had lost his mine, when he said yes to the proposal of joining a gym, but we both learned to enjoy it. We enjoyed working side by side or away from each other, it did not matter. We always enjoy doing things together, but the gym will it was one of those things I figured would not last a year. I figured will he would quit, or I be bored by now. Fact is his limitation only strengthen areas he was beginning to get weak in, and will it began to strengthen muscles just plan walking could not do. There is a point, we both have different goals in the gym, but both are together confine to one building. It teaching us about limitations of the other. It teaches where strength is. How we can help each other in other areas of our life. It been productive togetherness activity yet separate. Point being a simple workout can show how hard marriage can be and not be, the strengths being clear in each spouse, that makes the unit strong. It has be practiced regularly to be a solid relationship. Yet each partner comes with different abilities to enhance the marriage, not to cause separation.
Jesus talks about divorcement being a law Moses wrote because of issues between men and women. There is not couple alive that probably has not entertained at least the idea of divorce. Yet the common reason in Christ day may of been to marry another person, instead of simply to be alone. Adultery being a main issue of marriage breakups even today. Yet adultery causing unfaithfulness in a marriage. Adultery being the reason for separation. Separation because of breaking of the marriage vows, for some unforgiveable pardon and for others pardonable depending on the situation. Through out scripture some men even had more then one wife, with no divorce, while others divorced or separated completely. The marriage defined by the couple. Yet God called man and woman to be one, to be not of multimarriage, but of one unit of one male and one female. Man as always has changed marriage to what he thought suited him and not what God said it should be. Sarah(Abraham's wife) became frustrated that she willingly gave her maid to her husband. Leah and Rachel fought over who Jacob would go to bed with, because of dual marriage arrangement. The issues are endless in scripture of the corruption of men and women in marriage.
Jesus point being simple man often corrupting the laws of God to suit their own agenda and not follow God laws. Priest were one's questioning the marriage law, but perhaps wondering how to address the law of Moses and how certain laws were given to men for the benefit of men and women. Woman could divorce and marry another, but it did not change the breaking the adultery law in the ten commandments.
There is times man and woman pushes through bad situations to not only prove loyalty, but love has no boundaries in the marriage. The failing of one, or the weakness of one in area, does not change the love or commitment to each other. Struggles are normal, aggravation is normal, anger is normal, how we cope with all the things life deal us within a marriage or alone, must come with compassion for self, and another. Marriage is not always going to be always the honeymoon phase, you got to be able to get to the happy golden years, those years that all those other years seen as hard to love, and maybe even difficult to love at times, because of changes in each other. Not always good changes, but changes non the less. Learning to love even when it difficult. God did not call us to divorce, that was man idea to separate what God joined together. Take it to the Lord in prayer about your marriage, before you give up on your spouse. If they gave up on you, you know how to pack your bags and leave, and move on with life.
Dear Heavenly Father, help us to know your will is to keep marriage together and never to divide them. That division comes from humanity, either the spouse or another coming between, or other issues arising that can not be resolved so readily. Help each marriage exam why the idea of separation and divorce is truly there, help true love find a way beyond the difficulties that come. In Jesus precious name, Amen.
Continual Scripture Study:Genesis 2:24-25 KJV
24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.